Not On My Doorstep
Today, anti-equal marriage protesters appeared on my doorstep. A married, middle-aged couple with grey hair, some leaflets and their petition. They told me they were from “the church”, but I’m not sure exactly what church. I think, judging on their leaflets and petition, they may not actually be carrying this out on behalf of a church. I immediately didn’t warm to their constant use of the word “dear”, but I thought I’d do what I usually do when religious people show up on my doorstep; let them tell me who they are and politely tell them I’m not interested. However, when they started explaining they were collecting signatures to “protect marriage from gay government” I was so shocked that I started laughing. Loudly. I then bluntly told them to piss off and closed the door. Far from polite and no help to my cause, but I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I went inside and phoned my boyfriend to laugh about it.
Afterwards though, I began to think. I had people show up at my house today to tell me they don’t think I deserve the right to be married. That there is something wrong with me based on my sexuality. I can’t watch television, read a paper or go online without seeing an attack like this. I see it and hear it in the street sometimes. These people just proved to me that not even in my own home am I safe from bigoted ideas of people with more power. My safe space isn’t free of people telling me that I am not okay.
So, in light of this, I’m going to urge any Scottish readers to respond to the Scottish government’s consultation on the draft of the Marriage and Civil Partnership (Scotland) bill. If you don’t live in Scotland? Signal boosting is great. There is opposition and, while I don’t think they are particularly large, they are loud. The first draft has been far from perfect, and has not covered some of what was being campaigned for. We need to push for more, and make ourselves heard.
Equal marriage won’t stop homophobia or transphobia. It doesn’t mean LGBTPQ+ people would suddenly be free of discrimination. It does, however, mean that there is a chance to influence future generations and their attitudes towards these issues.